Friday, February 13, 2009
more than normal level of anxiety for my hair appointment this weekend, can't afford another crappy haircut!
In the past, I usually schedule hair appointments spontaneously with a sudden urge for a little change. This kind of change truly redirects my mood for the better.... most of the time anyways. I have gotten haircuts after a bad date, a bad work situation, a sad good-bye, and.... (okay, I better stop before you think I am crazy...) I think a person's hair style could be as serious as defining that person's image (perceived and projected), because I certainly feel so. A good haircut makes me feel good, good like lost a few pounds good. The good feeling also lingers unlike an impulsive purchase, which only lasts as long as the next time you see/use what you have purchased. It lasts for at least a month. Needless to say, an haircut is damn important to me. After repeat disasters with my hair not that long ago, I have tried to avoid going to salons (and I have for the past 4 months, which is unheard of and a personal record...). I couldn't bear to go through another episode of frustration without any solution. Tears have been shed, and prices have been paid for shop-therapy (ironically). I think anyone who has had that experience, can relate to me.
This time around, my appointment was after careful consideration and evaluation. I decided to brave my fear and made an appointment with a highly recommended stylist. My anxiety level, however, went through the roof. I don't want to think about the what if's, but somehow, I just can't help it. I want to tell myself that no matter what happens, my hair will always grow back, but heck, what am I suppose to do in the mean time? This kind of circular emotion caused by a haircut is silly, but somehow... valid to me. Let's just hope that there won't be another disaster this time. I will even settle for a good haircut that is not exactly what I wanted. After all, that's too much to ask of stylists. They are in an interesting position though, I do have to say. They are artists, but they are in an industry where what they think does not matter whatsoever. That is the exactly opposite from most creative industries, and I think for that, they are a little frustrated themselves. Even though they have their own sets of ideals for what a good haircut means, they often forget that what they think is hot, might not be what the customers want. I have heard and personally experienced this kind of frustration, and I am certainly not alone.
So, in the end, no matter how uncomfortable it is to tell a stylist what he or she is doing is not what you wanted at all, while you are under scissors, you have to speak up, and speak up before it is too late. Don't let the thinking of "I am sure it will be fine after she or he dries it/style it" fool you, because you know your hair better than anyone else. When you start to have that oh-shit feeling in your stomach, you are probably right and you need to trust it. After all, your own image is more important, because you might have to live with it for months!